Let’s be real – there are days when the idea that we’re “beautiful” can be quite difficult to digest. Days when it seems like self-doubt is overstaying her welcome, and self-love is M.I.A. We’ve all been there. Girls are constantly showered with messages attacking the way we look, feel, and act. And, as much as we’d like to block the number, most of the time these messages are accompanied by a read receipt on our behalf.
I want to make something very clear – perfection does not exist. It is unattainable. Often our outlook on perfection is completely skewed by the unrealistic images that we are bombarded with daily. We want her legs, and her butt, and her hair, and her boobs. And we think to ourselves if only we had these things, then we’d be happy. If only I was graced with Cara’s eyebrows, and Gigi’s legs, then I’d be happy. News flash, babes – you won’t be. Luckily, however, I have found another route to happiness – and one that doesn’t cost us our confidence: self-love.
The first step to embracing and loving yourself is accepting yourself. We’re all perfectly imperfect. There is always something we want to change, but the reality is – we can’t. We are who we are. And the most liberating realization of all is that’s okay. You have so much more to offer than to be weighed down by labels like “pretty” or “beautiful.” When did we start believing that beauty is only outward? Feeling good within yourself is true freedom, and knowing that you authentically own every part of you is the most empowering tool you will possess. There is power in accepting yourself. There is power in owning who you are. In fact, there is beauty in it. Oscar Winner Lupita Nyong’o said it best:
“Finally I realized that beauty was not a thing that I could acquire
or consume, it was something that I just had to be. And what my mother
meant when she said “you can’t eat beauty” was that
you can’t rely on how you look to sustain you.
What does sustain us... what is fundamentally beautiful is
compassion for yourself and for those around you. That kind of
beauty enflames the heart and enchants the soul.”
We are women. We are brilliant, and fiery, and capable. We are tough, and gentle, and strong. We are complex and varied. Do not let someone else’s expectations silence you. Do not let your outward appearance define you. Own your authentic self. Be proud of it. Love it.
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